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A Yahoo search for a “bridal agency Ukraine” yields over 82,000 results. For a country, which has been locked away to the rest of the world for years and has gained independence a little over ten years ago, such results seem overwhelming. Why has this business flourished in the FSU countries within the last few years? Are women of these countries on a prowl for a rich husband? Are they raking around for an unforgettable short-term romance? Or are they seeking something more profound like true love and someone to make them happy?

Lucky for me, when questions began swarming in my head, a good girlfriend of mine, who has lived in Italy for a number of years, was in town to visit her family. So, instead of digging through piles of statistics and wracking my brain in search of the answers, I turned to the source with first-hand experience.

Before I move on, let me make myself clear: by no means does this article include motives and wants of every woman, who submits her profile to a bridal agency. And I will be the first to encourage foreigners: do exercise caution once you choose the path of a bridal agency search. In the past, some ladies from the FSU countries have provided more than enough negative publicity, but don’t let that discourage you and miss out on a chance to gift someone the pleasure of communication and a possibility to find love. With that in mind, I proceed…

When I began questioning the motives of women who take a chance on bridal agencies, my first discovery was quite disturbing. One of the top reasons why FSU women prefer foreigners is that men at their home country… aren’t good enough.

“Many people talk about how awful it is (for FSU women) to live abroad and tell you horror stories. Why not admit that the reason is in men at home, who, in my opinion, don’t know what a family is?” – was a comment from Natasha, who used to be Russian Bride in response to the article in one of the leading Russian papers, which condemned marriages to foreigners. “Unfortunately, ‘Russian’ men have got a long way to go to keep up with men from abroad.”

Some bridal agencies will give you the same information. An American journalist, who took a “find-the-bride” trip to Ukraine as a part of his investigation for a story, says in his on-line journal that the instructor on the tour explained to him: Ukrainian and Russian men “drink, philander, alternately beat and neglect women.” Obviously, not every FSU man treats women this way. Nevertheless, a general conception that most Russian/Ukrainian women share of men in their home countries comes down to a few common words: irresponsible, hard-hearted, too demanding and not willing to provide for their children, let alone their mother. Given that FSU women are admired throughout history for their strong family ties and devotion, it is not surprising that many of them come to bridal agencies expecting to find someone trustworthy, reliable and willing to create and nourish the family.

Another observation Natasha made after a three-year long marriage to a foreigner: “Actually, when I married him, I didn’t want to live in Italy… But Italians are very family oriented and put more emphasis on family values. That meant a lot to me. Foreigners in general seem to be more serious about family and children, unlike men at home.”

In line with lack of quality of FSU men, there is also lack of quantity. Statistics show that during 2002 the ratio men-women was 46 % to 54%, and hasn’t changed much since. Given that a large part of these 46% are people who can’t be counted on for love, care and support, it leaves the ladies of Russia and Ukraine very little to choose from. Obviously, when something you need is not in sight, you look to broader horizons.

“All the good ones have been snatched away long ago, your chances to find someone in this country after you turn 25 are next to nill,” Natasha mused over a cup а coffee (she married her Italian sweetheart at the age of 29). “It seems the guys (in Ukraine) disappear when they turn 30.”

On top of all said, the appreciation of their own feminity sets FSU women apart from American or European ladies. Most foreigners note that FSU women look different from the latter two, and I don’t just mean their outward beauty, which has been mentioned and admired by many. These ladies like to look pretty, it is not unusual for them to wear a dress and pumps on a regular basis, they care about their body and like to be attractive. Bottom line, they want to be feminine, not feminist.

FSU women cherish being a “weak gender”, which for them means taking care of their family in the first place, as well as being cared for and appreciated. Promises of that seem to be given in abundance by Americans and Europeans, many of whom share an opinion that it has been too long since Western women have shown any aspiration to cherish the softer side of the “weaker gender”. In comparison with a constant rush of women at home to make careers and get equal with men, the feminine side of the FSU ladies is at definite advantage to men from abroad. Even some FSU men will admit that “their” women are attractive to the foreigners exactly because they “remain women, not some emancipated feminists, like in the West.”

Natasha gets a bit nostalgic remembering her first few times to visit Italy: “I went to Italy to feel like a queen, to get my share of attention, which I had been lacking from our men. I think there is so much beauty (in Russia), that our men are simply used to it, it is mundane to them, they forget about simple compliments… Italians value beauty.”

After all this, what can I say to men in search of their destiny? It all comes down to what you are looking for. No doubt, there will be some money-hungry vamps, eager to trap you. If you want an exotic one night stand, you can find that in Ukraine, Russia or anywhere in the world for that matter. But if you are looking for a woman who will respect you, relish her family and be as smart as she is pretty, the chances of you finding that in Ukraine or Russia are greater than at any other place. Russian Bride is the best.

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Men have no idea how much women talk about sex.  They also don’t realise how swiftly girl-gaggles get down to the nitty-gritty, the detail of which would startle most men.  In between bouts of hilarity, women swap anecdotes about men’s size, duration, technique, giving the impression that nothing is too sacred to scrutinise.  But on closer examination, could this banter be a decoy to cover for the most untouchable topic of all; the vulnerability many females feel about international love?

While animals get on with doing ‘it’, humans have made such a song and dance about something that is as natural as sleeping and the rules and taboos can turn the hottest woman into a frosty ice-block in bed.

When I was growing up, good girls weren’t supposed to have sex at all.  Good married girls were expected to do their duty and the idea of female orgasm was little more than preposterous.  Then lurve-making was freed by the marvels of contraception and every self-respecting hippy thumbed their noses at convention by shagging with alacrity.  Now the daisy-chains of the ‘60’s have been replaced by the manacles of the vamp and the pressure is on for women to perform.

Today the natural form of tender loving sex has become passé and marketing has seduced women into being on constant sex alert; to have ready shaven legs, a well manicured Brazilian, perky breasts and sanitised female parts that have the fragrance of artificial rose-petals instead of a musty old sack.  Not only does this inhibit the spontaneity of a lustful ‘quickie’ but some also believe that their well manicured body has to be covered in elaborate outfits worn with the sole intention of being taken off.

While dressing up is a matter of personal preference, if women feel pressurised to do so the big question is: who are they doing this for? Do females really turn themselves on when trying to squeeze into their old school gymslip?

Now I’m nearly six foot tall and have the characteristic spread of middle-age; so it’s just ludicrous to imagine what this would look like in a cute little French Maid’s outfit.  I also know that if my man wore his underpants on the outside of his tracksuit and flew at me from the top of the wardrobe, I would fall about laughing and, at our age, he may risk losing more than his erection.

One of the things the Vagina Monologues set out to achieve was to bring the diversity of female sexuality into normal conversation.  But for starters even using the word ‘vagina’ was problematic.  Some female callers to radio stations had the typical shock-and-horror reaction to this word being touted in public. Perhaps they would be more comfortable with any of the hundreds of vulgar euphemisms used to demean the only part that makes us definitively female.

This inability to utter the word points to the baggage attached to female sexuality and it is this that leads many women to feel shy about bonking.  Parents seldom deal with sex as if it were an everyday topic to be discussed openly with children and their self-consciousness is interpreted as shame.

My first sex-education was a rather awkward clinical tour of vaginal tracts, Fallopian tubes and sperm sacs delivered by a nun at the convent I attended.  Even at age 11 the credibility problem was patently obvious; what could a celibate nun possibly know about sex?

This clinical version certainly didn’t include ideas about sex being the most fun you can have with or without your clothes on and topics like oral sex and masturbation weren’t just hush-hush, they weren’t even mentioned.  The most common misconception about masturbation was that it made boys go blind; ensuring that the bespectacled class nerd was ridiculed mercilessly.

Understanding one’s own body is the key to breaking down socially imposed sexual bashfulness, claims sex therapist Marlene Wasserman – aka Dr Eve on popular radio talk shows.  Author of Pillowbook, Dr Eve recommends that girls masturbate every day giving new meaning to the phrase: “I got it all this morning”.  Apparently there’s no getting around it, only by regularly paddling the pink canoe will you come to grips with the buttons that turn you on.

There are many how-to books on the market but says Dr Eve; all women’s bodies are different and when it comes to learning about orgasms, there is no one-size-fits-all.   She adds: “Books that recommend pushing a bit here and tweaking a little there harm women.”  Many may try these techniques but if they fail, the reader believes there’s something wrong with herself, not that there’s something wrong with the book.

Instead Dr Eve advises learning about one’s sexuality as a process rather than some handy techniques, and the starting point is to be as familiar with the contours of your vulva as we are with the lines on our face.

Just the idea of squatting naked on a mirror produces some extraordinary reactions in women.  From reluctance to revulsion, the lack of enthusiasm for becoming familiar with one’s own vagina calls attention to the deep-rooted conditioning underpinning sexual shyness or shame.

From God’s lips to man’s ears, female sexuality was contrived as the source of evil and consequently girls need to overcome many illusory bad feelings about sex.  Guilt is the big baddie here and even young girls still condemn other sexily dressed teenagers with insults like ‘slut’ and ‘whore’.  Not so long ago these tags were used for women who slept around, but what shows up the absurdity is that no one ever knew how many partners it took.   Was it a total of two, ten or forty-three different lovers that turned one into a ‘ho’?

Fabled ideas about female sexuality mean that girls often fall-back upon the misguided notion that men know what to do.  This is a disastrous falsehood as most boys resort to the school playground or the movies for their sex-ed.  I’ve often wondered whether those ‘educated’ solely by cine-sex believe that the most common sexual position is the one with the woman cheerfully bouncing around on top.  The only reason for this becoming the movie standard is because such an arrangement provides the best camera shot of her voluminous breasts.

As men are equally in the dark when it comes to sex-ed, most report that they would prefer their women to guide them rather than having to rely upon assumptions; or make the mistake of basing their judgement on what a previous lover liked.

Another major inhibiting factor for women is the obsession with physical perfection.  Many agonize that their cellulite, wobbly bum or tell-tale love-handles will turn their partner off.  What few females realise is that he’s so preoccupied with getting his end away that he’s unlikely to even notice these self-proclaimed imperfections.

What’s the point of using your imagination to put yourself down anyway?  Self-flagellation won’t alter his view; it will only switch your libido off.  Instead therapists like Dr Eve recommend using your imagination to think yourself into a state where you start feeling sexy and desirable.

Along with learning about sex, we also need to unlearn the fables that led us down the garden path to inhibition and frustration. Sex is not a stage performance; it is the most natural act of all.  So instead of nattering to friends, who you may be unlikely to wish to bed, how about starting to have conversations with the partners in whose hands our sexual satisfaction lies?

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Men who decide to marry  foreign brides have their own reasons. One good one is because the divorce rate among men who marry foreign women is dramatically lower than what you’ll find among conventional marriages.

Another reason some men choose a mail order bride is because they want a more traditional type family life, the kind that prevailed many years ago with the woman staying home and taking care of the house, her husband and raising the kids. They’ve learned they can find that more easily with foreign women.

Meeting a woman online from a foreign country and deciding to marry her is much more accepted today than it was several years ago. Online dating in general continues to increase in popularity and today it’s just as easy to meet someone from the other side of the world as it is to meet someone from the other side of town.

There are a few differences between mail order bride dating sites and general dating sites online. The mail order bride sites are generally filled with women who are actively seeking marriage-minded men. Sometimes referred to as marriage agencies, this type site is being seen more frequently every year.

A mail order bride is not the right choice for every man, of course, as some men don’t like the scrutiny that often accompanies the choice to marry a foreign woman. Her family may want to ‘put him under the microscope’ before they give their approval.

It’s very important that you be open minded if you’re considering marriage with a foreign woman. Her culture must be respected and honored; even in the areas it’s different from your own. She may accept your customs and beliefs in time, but don’t expect her to completely abandon her own.

In many of the countries popular for mail order brides, the decision to marry involves the bride’s whole family. In many case, you’ll be expected to visit her country and meet her family. If she lives in a very small town or village, you may even be introduced to the village leaders, since the people of the town highly regard the opinions of the leaders.

Be prepared that there are still narrow-minded people that will doubt the sincerity of your new bride’s intentions. They may think she only wants to escape her own country, or just seeks citizenship. It will be your responsibility to set their thinking straight and defend your wife if the situation warrants it.

Some of those same closed-minded folks may think you decided on a mail order bride because you wanted a sex-slave or someone to keep your house clean and cook your meals without complaining. Your love and respect for your bride should be enough to put such nonsense to rest.

Obviously, these views are not main stream, and are only held by those people who still believe the outdated stereotype of mail order brides. But if you should encounter such prejudice, you need to be prepared to deal with it.

In fact, men who marry foreign women tend to have longer, happier marriages, according to studies that have been done. But it’s a good idea to be aware of some of the issues you may face in addition to the differences in culture, before you decide if a mail order bride is the right choice for you.

When you’ve decided you can handle whatever issues come your way, spend time getting to know a woman before you ask her to leave her family and her country behind. While it’s an awesome responsibility to take on a mail order bride, those who have done so have said it’s the best decision they’ve ever made.

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Heating up the weekend can be done when singles turn up the heat in the Latin dating scene. Meeting other Latin singles that are hot and wanting to have fun will definitely turn things up a notch for as long as you want it to. There are no limits to the kind of heat that can be created when singles let them selves go and talk about the things they think are hot. Talking about fun things can also get the heat started no matter how hot it is outside this heat will definitely be hotter.

Local Latin singles get together to have a fun time doing many different things. There may be a local dance club or restaurant where singles get together to have a good time. Finding where all the hot Latin dating spots are will let you be the one to start up a heated conversation about what turns you on. Talking about turning people on will definitely make the night or the weekend hotter than you thought it could be.

There are many singles that choose to chat the weekend away. This does not mean that they are missing out on all the fun in fact they are creating more than just fun. Having a fun and flirty time starts building up the heat and when both singles feel that heat there may be no stopping the fire they will create. Latin chats are a great way to meet new singles and find out what they think is hot. Likes and don’t likes can be found out and can be enjoyed by each other as it compliments the heat that may have been started by such an innocent conversation.

Latin dating options are growing giving the chance for Latin singles to meet each other and have fun times no matter where they are. Meeting new people will mean having great Latin single friends to have over and start your own hot parties with. There are really no limits to the fun that can be had by all those on this dating scene. There is no harm in having a little fun and no harm in turning up the heat for a great evening or weekend. Singles in Latin communities are enjoying the experiences they find as they meet new singles. Having a good time is what it is all about and if that means that a fire gets started then that’s ok too.

Great food and fun times are such a part of the Latin singles scene because of their beautiful culture. Being able to enjoy who you are as a single Latin man or woman can be done when you meet other singles just like you. Singles waiting to have great fun while creating a hot atmosphere to party in. Finding the right spot to meet those singles you want to connect with can be done in person, on the phone or online. Let the fun begin when you go to the next level of Latin dating so the two of you can heat up the night.

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During Brazil’s Carnival, one of the most disputed (and sometimes controversial) unofficial contests is deciding who was the “ultimate muse”, after the four-day party holiday is over. Brazilians, international press, and publicity agencies, reflect upon who was the most dazzling drum queen or parading muse in Rio’s Sambadrome. There is no official title for this informal contest, but national media always try to elect Carnival model number 1. Many criticize this “new” beauty frenzy. People question why does this vibrant contest even exist? Is it a sin to be a muse in the Brazilian Carnival? Is it there any problem in being attractive, sensual or graceful? This is main topic of this article.

Celebrities, actresses, models are usually selected and the top Brazilian beauty during the Carnival holidays. Carnival muses are extremely well paid by the publicity market and pampered by top samba schools. The beer, retail, cosmetics and fashion industry are some of segments that constantly rely on Brazilian models to support their brands. Actresses, celebrities, and performers legitimately see carnival as an opportunity to cash in the investment they have made along their carrier in their mythical attributes. Many of them enhance their media visibility in the samba parade, while being evaluated for movie and TV soap operas casts and TV shows. Nothing wrong with that! Although we have seen some infuriated perspectives, beauty has its decisive place when appropriately shown.

A famous quote by “The girl of Ipanema” songwriter Vinicius de Moraes says: “The ugly will pardon me, but beauty is fundamental,”. Nothing new since “Beauty is truth, truth is beauty” from Keats “Ode on a Grecian Urn”.

Amanda Fran?o – model and talk show presenter

Juliana Paes – Model and Movie Actress

Sabrina Sato – model, TV presenter and comedian

Graziella Massafera – model and TV actress

Natalia Guimar? – Miss Brazil

Mirella Santos – model and dancer

Gracyanne Barbosa – Model and Mangueira Drum Queen

Paola Oliveira – TV Actress and Model

All of these beauties reached the limelight in Brazil (and abroad) not only because of their natural gifts, provided by genes, sweat and tears. They have true talents such as representing, dancing, modeling and other artistic expressions. Beauty alone is incapable of lending more than the Andy Warhol’s original 15 minutes of fame. Muses have much more to offer in their souls than symmetric lines and sensual poses.

I leave you to make the final call who is the ultimate carnival muse in 2008. The important point to notice is that most of these muses deliver wonder and magic to earth largest popular show, which is the Brazilian Carnival. I believe Brazilian women are authentic in every aspect of their vibrant personalities. Brazilian Carnival is obviously much more than this. (In the collective unconscious abroad, Brazilian carnival is sometimes linked to nudity).

Brazilian women are indeed magically esthetically gifted, and again, I personally think there is nothing wrong with that. Beauty has been worshiped since the Greeks, Romans, and even before, when our ancestors walked the African plains. Many evolutionary psychologists point out today that back in the pleistocene days, beauty was an important fitness indicator. In essence, the beauty debate is a much more complex issue than a simple dichotomist approach can imagine.



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